do not expect from otherss that they will with you when you need them, but try to be with them when they need you (if possible if not try to be with them as large as possible),

do not expect from others to undestand you, your feelings , your problems.,and your needs . but try  to do all these things with them upto highest possible extent.

in fact whenever we feel ourself alone and need someone to give us company ,instead of waiting for some one to come to us  , we ourself sud  come forward to  accompany some one who needs us. thebasic  fact behind all the relations  through out our life is that change is the behaviour of any relation around us(just like change is law of nature). we can not force any relation or a person to be same with us through out our life.and it is 100%fact that every person around us will get changed in future by certain manner this is due to the fact that the priority of all persons  get changed time to time and so  our relations with each other  accordingly get changed  .whether it is with our sister or brother or parents or friends or others.).and hence the  way of enjoying life  in best manner is that one sud live every relation with  full heart when u r the highest priority of that particular relation (may be it is for few moments but do not care for the length of duration and just live this moment and feel the warmth of ur relation). in future if  this relation changes   its form and u no longer remain the top priority for that person , we sud not make any complaint to this relation and sud feel happy that i have fully utilized the moments when we were together and important for each other.

not only priorities but some time people around us are replaced  by new ones. then also instead of hurting our selves by remembering the memories of those who have moved forward in their lifes in different directions we sud enjoy the company of our new friends and  fellow travelers in the journey of life(of coure we sud try to get some time to remember the past but with the sweet moments and memories we have shared with all amazing people we had in the past not with tears . it is only possible if we live each and every single moment of our life with love , care,and honesty not with complaints, not with fear for tomorrow and also not with regrets of past )

all of us get changed after each state  of our life like after school, after college, after marriage, after joining office, after retirement and all other possible major phases of life. hence we all sud accept the changes in us and alao in others  with open mind and practical heart. if we can do it successfully then there will be no place for complaints ,fear and regrets in our life and life will look like a sweet and memorable journey.

at last the hard  truth of life is that the only true friend/relative of one is he/she  him/herself. so we sud expect  most of the things we desire in life from ourself not from others.so do not expect too much from other but yes try to fullfill other's  expectation from u (if u can) becoz it really hurts when  any one breaks one's expectation.so enjoy the life with what ever u have around .........with no complaints.......... no fear ......no regrets.......

finally 2 lines though irrelevent but i read somewhre and still remember perhaps i lke   ............

       Manzil ki baten  chhodo ., kisne payi mazilen.....

       ek safar accha laga....... ek humsafatr accha laga................

                                                                                                           wish u all A GOOD life

                                                                                                                      ANJALI